What in the world is going on? Single and Proud Day? Yep. I've heard of worse things to celebrate in addition to and instead of Valentines Day. I mean what do you do when you don't have a valentine? Mope and be sad about it or celebrate?
You can take different views on things, but you know it's one of the difficult holidays for certain people. Family holidays like Christmas or Thanksgiving and the like can take serious tolls on those that have to be around family that cause or have caused trauma. Or if they don't have any family to share the time with. This includes "like" family.
Valentines on the other hand is about more intimate relationships. I mean getting cards from your mom and dad, etc. is cool. Flowers and candy or whatever is romantic, from someone who cares about you with a different kind of love is just that, different. It means something more and can be less depressing than "just" getting a card from a parent.
Single and Proud Day on the other hand, I designated mine on 2/13, is a way of taking the reigns before V-Day and loving yourself. Time to reflect and think about all the positives of being single. (I mean single single. No cupcaking or whatever they call it now, on the phone or anything like that. Not allowed.)
It's a time to reflect on your freedom, the good points. Like being able to get up and go where you like when you like. Eat whatever you want. Not having to consider someone else. Hanging out with whomever you wish. No pressure to meet societal norms or your partners in regards to the worlds standards of what a relationship involves. Spending your money on whomever you want whenever you want. Living how you want. All the good things of being single is what you want to reflect on. Not the Devil's Advocate version including a lot of "buts" and "what ifs." but the positive, "God thank you I don't have to deal with that right now, you know what you are doing" kind of positives.
Trust me, I know it can be difficult, but if you want to have a party with singles with no expectations but to have fun, go ahead. I tried it, 4 people showed up. I no longer talk to any of those people, but you shouldn't give up. I just like to have fun and hope that one day there will be others who would like to be included in my fun. I know it can work, I'm just a noob and have trust issues at this point, but don't let that stop you.
Help others to be responsible and to love their relationship status in life. Well, maybe not love it, but to love themselves and accept their current status. It might just help someone open up to meeting new people, getting out and enjoying life. You never know. Just give them as safe a situation as you can and go for it. If you want to, play games, plan giveaways or whatever. I had a much smaller space than I have now and four was probably more than enough, but people could go where they wanted, just about.
So, what I'm saying, while you may or may not have a sweetheart, bae, main squeeze, or whatever, you should enjoy this time of hearts and lots of red and white. Make it your own. Either as a group or alone. It's a good time and a good excuse to get started or grow your love for life and yourself. They tell me, "until you truly love yourself, you can't really love someone else." I don't know where that came from, but I've heard different versions of it as you probably have as well. And, even though I've heard it along with "he'll come along when you least expect it, he's probably right under your nose, stop looking and you'll find it," all that stuff, I will be happy and open to what God does. It's hard submitting to His Will sometimes, but I'm not as good as understanding and controlling my life, the big picture especially, as He is.
So, what are you waiting for? Get started planning your big day. With a smile, you never know what could happen. You never know. May God bless you with love for yourself and love for others and with those that love you back in all the right ways. Talk to you soon.
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