Boundaries is your private force field. You can choose to let someone in or not. Someone who is groomed in any relationship may have had certain boundaries cross, that unless you know this has happened, they will continue to be crossed. This force field may weakened by completely demolishing self-esteem or any type of self awareness. When this happens, someone who is capable, & willing, to take advantage of this may just do so.
I had someone, after having taken advantage of my boundary issues, tell me I had "no boundaries." After making me feel guilty & like I was the only one to blame. No apologies from him, I did all the apologizing. I'd felt bad, like I had done something wrong. Even though I did not want to participate, I could not understand why I kept participating, I felt I had failed someway, somehow. Major manipulation. Feeling this way it was hard to see, "it takes two to tango. I felt like I had to fix things, as I was taught & often felt I should. Guilt. Even as I was pouring out tears, he was smiling. "Not again." I did not just let this happen again.
Once you can see the nips & tucks a person makes on your soul, spirit, core person, you will be able to stop the overall end effect. This can take time & perseverance. You may lose "friends" & family. People may even blame you for what happened. How do you fight the evil entity that is trying to hold you down? Start by building up your self esteem & your personal boundaries. What you will & will not accept. What you will & will not do. Believe in you & how wonderful & worthy you are. Due respect at all times. If things get too dangerous, do your best to change the situation a little at a time. Get support. Leave the situation if you have to do so. Again, these are my opinions. Not the answers to all your problems. I just want to encourage you to start thinking for yourself & taking care of you.
I'm am not a licensed